The Um & The Ah

The Um & The Ah


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We've all been there - you're standing up in front of a crowd of family and friends, ready to deliver a heartfelt speech at your loved one's wedding. You take a deep breath, start speaking... and suddenly, the dreaded "um" and "ah" make an appearance. Your heart races as you try to think of what to say next, and before you know it, you've lost your train of thought.

But fear not, dear wedding speaker! is here to save the day (and your speech).

First, let's address the elephant in the room - those pesky "ums" and "ahs." Yes, they can be annoying and distracting, but they're also natural alongside sweaty palms and heart-palpitations that nervous speakers experience. 

How do we deal with them? The trick is to replace them with a pause. Take a breath, gather your thoughts, and continue speaking. It may feel awkward at first, but with practice, it will become second nature.

Speaking of practice, that brings us to our next point - rehearsing your speech. This is not the time for winging it. Write down your thoughts, rehearse in front of a mirror or with a friend, and record yourself so you can listen back and identify areas that need improvement. Remember, practice makes perfect!

But what about nerves? We've all been there, and unfortunately, nerves can make those "ums" and "ahs" even more prominent. But once again, the fact of the matter is that these hesitations are completely natural. 

Basic Psychology reveals that they are time-fillers that indicate a train of thought because we have been conditioned to respond immediately.

So, take a deep breath, focus on your breathing, and try to relax. You've got this!

Finally, consider using your body language to your advantage. Gesturing with your hands and using your body to emphasize certain points can help keep your audience engaged and distract from any nervousness or fillers in your speech.

Of course, if you're still feeling overwhelmed, consider hiring a professional speechwriter. At, we specialize in crafting personalized, heartfelt speeches that will have your audience laughing, crying, and applauding. With our help, you'll be the star of the show - no "ums" or "ahs" required!

So there you have it, dear wedding speaker. With a little bit of practice, a deep breath, and perhaps a little help from, you'll be delivering a speech that will be remembered for years to come. Cheers to that!

Until the next family event. ;-) 

with Love

Edited By Lehlohonolo Bopape



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